What is it with all of us in not being honest to ourself? These past months, I have to describe it as one of the most stressful in my adult life. When I die, if some sort of stats have been kept about my life and how stress I was through it, these months would be somewhere in the top. There are many reasons why, lots have to be with just feeling tired. People seem to want my input into things, but not really. I think all of us as human beings can improve ourself if we could only stop, pause, and have a good self analysis of ourself, even if is something that can hurt our ego., or feelings. If somebody comes to you right now and asks you who are you? can you say who you are? what are you believes? what are your values? If in one or two sentence you have to say who you are? Would you say I am so and so director of so and so? or I am so and so a teacher, a computer tech.,A lawyer? a Vice president of a company? etc. etc.. Are you what you do? what about if you lost your job? and you can no longer say, I am so and so a director of so and so. who would you say that you are? are you a son, or daughter, etc? Part of this analysis I take it from Dr. Nick Hall’s book, “Change your beliefs change your life.” I’ve have been recently reading and listening to the book for about my 5th time. My question to all of you is what is your personal identity? How would you describe your values, your belief, and your goals? and most important of all, are these beliefs, and values helping you to make progress towards your goals? If your values and beliefs are keeping you from accomplishing this goals, you probably have experience in your life many negative emotions; and if you do not know what your beliefs and values are, then you probably bounce from one emotion to another without knowing why. I am not going to go into much more about the book. In a nutshell Dr. Hall explains that many times when we are confronted with an actual hard or tough decision, perhaps even one that scares us, we respond base on our beliefs, and not the reality in front of us.
I believe that many times people contradict themselves about many things because of this notion. Many times I get approach by others and get asked for advice about certain things and they hear me, acknowledge me, but do not follow my advice. I am not saying that they must follow my advice, but I get frustrated when then the same people come back and asks me about the same advice they didn’t follow before. I think this happens because we all, including me, know what we need to do about things, but we do not want to go through what it takes. We all “want to have the cake and eat it at the same time.” We all want to loose weight, but keep eating plenty and not exercise, we all want to be financially successful and free, but watch TV and go have fun every weekend with family and friends and dedicate little time towards accomplishing financial goal. we all want a successful married but to all things be done our way, we all want a fulfilling relationship, but not go through what makes a relationship significant and fulfilling. In essence many of us have an idea of what we want, but we do not have the honesty to ourself to recognize what we have to do about it.
I continue to be true to myself to the best humanly possible, and my workouts still going on. I need to work on my food consumption since I like to eat and I like food. But I am consistent and strong as a rock with accomplishing my work outs.
